For her: break the vicious cycle by giving herself the recognition she craves from others.
Instead of just reframing thoughts, she can treat each day's actions as evidence to herself of her own value.
She should ask: How does she want to be valued? How can she demonstrate those qualities to herself?
Building confidence in her own worth can soothe the sting of perceived rejections and help her find her people.
For you: you already know the right course—neither craving approval too much nor too little. But you can't do her growing for her.
“It's by doing it herself that she'll find her dignity,” Gordon-Smith notes. Trust that she'll get there; that trust itself might help it come true.
