If you both agree on a date when you will either commit to one another or move on, you can avoid a drawn-out breakup or years of loveless coupledom – in theory.
Name: The sunset stipulation. Appearance: Two people, facing the end with dignified magnanimity.
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Yikes, this sounds bleak. I’m not talking about death, just the end of a relationship.
That’s still quite bleak. It is if you’re not expecting it.
But if you impose a sunset stipulation into your love life, everything gets a lot more practical.
Oh, fantastic. What is it?
It’s simple – you just insist on an agreed-upon date, at which point you and your partner will discuss whether you both still want to be together.
Is this really a thing? Sure it is.
Imagine drifting directionlessly through your 20s, entering into one half-hearted and loosely defined semi-relationship after another. Doesn’t it sound awful to waste your time like that?
For the sake of expediency, let’s say yes.
But if you implement a sunset clause, where you both check in after a few months to make sure that this is definitely what you want and decide to end it if it isn’t, then all that directionlessness is removed.
Full transparency. Full forward momentum.
But what if one of you still enjoys the relationship? Are you kidding?
Do you really want to trap your partner in a loveless future simply because you’re scared of what life will be like without them?
